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How To Dress Well in High School

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Once you enter high school, you'll find that things are very different than middle school. 
Students start showing their own unique styles and experimenting more with clothes. Whether you are a boy or a girl, you can dress well in high school by following a few simple guidelines :



Steps


1. Go through everything in your closet, even stuff you don't normally wear. Mix and match different outfits by layering shirts, or pairing a cheaper t-shirt with more expensive jeans.

2. Put the items you don't want (they don't fit, don't match with anything else, are unflattering colors on you) in a bag and give it to charity. Throw out clothing that is permanently stained or very worn.

3. Accessorize. You can jazz up any seemingly plain outfit. Try bold bangles, or chunky necklaces and dramatic earrings (not all at once). Experiment and you will find out what goes well with what.

4. Pick your shoes accordingly. High-heels and short skirts can come across as sleazy, but flats or flip-flops will look great with them. Longer boot-cut jeans go great with high heels by showing a hint of toe. If your pants drag on the ground, get them hemmed or cuff them.

5. Even though you want the outfit to be your style, you take some influence from magazines and things!


Tips


- Pay attention to the fit. Do those jeans hug your hips? Do they make your butt look saggy? Does that new shirt have wide shoulders, making you look like a football player?

- Different clothes suit different people. Find what you are most comfortable in and pay attention to which looks people compliment.

- As much as you may think different colors together are cute, avoid looking tacky. If you are mixing with two different colored layered tops, try to keep the theme for the entire outfit.

- You may want a friend to help you put together new outfits if you are unsure. It might be more fun doing it together.



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How To Be Popular

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What do all popular people have in common? 
Do they all wear the same clothes
Have the same hair
Say the same things? 

Of course not. 


There are popular people all over the world, enjoying their social status at school, work, and wherever they go. They don't all look or act like each other, but they do all share one very crucial characteristic: people skills. Maybe they were born with them, or maybe they learned them from their family; however, they got them, they have them, and maybe you feel like you don't. 


Here's how to develop your people skills and start being the popular kid around your school!

Steps----------------------------------------------------

1. Make a good first impression on everybody you meet. First impressions can make you or break you and you want every person you meet to remember you, in a good way. Remember you only get one chance to make a first impression.
    • If the person holds out his/her hand to shake, be sure your grip is firm and strong. If your shake is weak, the person will sense your nervousness and question your power.
    • Make eye contact. Don't look at the floor. Again, the person will sense that you are insecure.
    • Smile! You want to come off as friendly, don't you? If your teeth aren't exactly white, invest in some whitening strips. If they aren't as straight as they could be, ask your orthodontist about braces. Once you get them off, your smile will be perfect.
    • Good posture is important. The way you hold yourself also gives off a lot about you. If you slouch your shoulders, you won't look like the most welcoming girl. Make a habit of good poise. Shoulders back, stomach in, and chin tilted up slightly.
    • All ears. Pay attention to what the other person is saying. Don't concentrate on yourself so much that you don't catch the person's name. Most popular girls are depicted as people who only brag about themselves but this is not true.
    • Speak clearly. No mumbling! When it's your turn to speak, talk loudly and clearly, but don't shout. You don't want to scare them off.
2. Become friends with the 'popular' girls. Try to hang out with them for a while. Make sure to be polite to them.

3. You can realize what's happening in the "in" crowd and pick up on slang. You don't want to finally get in and when the most popular girl says something, you have no clue what she is talking about.

4. Change is good. Remember who you are in the making of this change. Get used to the idea that you and your friends' bodies and minds are constantly changing! Make an effort to stay in style. Try wearing makeup, or making a signature accessory. One thing to remember - in girl world, if boys like you, or talk to you, you will become popular. So, girl world doesn't revolve around just girls,or does it? People say "Don't change and just be yourself," and this is true, but be your best self. Take it one step at a time, and build your confidence. Popular people are social and very busy.

5. Notice that there's many ways to change. You could change your dressing style, or become outgoing instead of shy, but NEVER change something big like your morals just to be popular.

6. Listen more than you talk. People will want to be around someone who flatters their ego more than a chatterbox, who stalks them. You can't listen with your mouth open. Ask them questions, but not enough to sound like a stalker. People love a person who takes the time to find more about them. I mean, what's not to like about a person who likes you?

7. Don’t Get too Cocky Make sure you don't get cocky and seem full of yourself.

8. Find the the most popular trio of the school and get to be close friends with them. This trio should include the most popular girl in school. Then start your own trio with 2 other girls who are potentially popular while hanging out with your old trio. From that, you have the potential to become the most popular girl in school, which means you should start living up to your own potential.

9. Don't be stupid. Be empathetic. They know when someone needs a smiling friend, a compliment, a hug, and know exactly how the other person is feeling. They start casual conversations. It's okay to be shy and have nerdy tendencies, but if you want to be popular, you have to smile, start conversations, and relate to people at their own level. That means talk about what the other person is interested in. Don't get the idea that you are shy or withdrawing. Realize that you are constantly changing, and that you are developing your social skills to the point where you could relate to all people. You have the "right" to change and grow.

10. Make sure you're always feeling and smelling great. Odor isn't pleasant at all, and unpleasant smells can be prevented easily by layering fragrances and keeping a bottle of perfume in your bag. Also keep sprays in a bag and spray lightly after every lesson, and extra for break and lunch. DON'T drench yourself though, a light fragrance is way better than a strong smell. Use great smelling hair products too, like shampoo and conditioner or hairspray... etc.

11. Always keep in mind the definition of popular: many people consider you a friend/admire you. Have you ever noticed that people who are friends with everyone, and all sorts of people are generally liked more, and more sought after, than "popular" kids? This is because they judge on more than appearances. People are much less intimidated by someone who is friends with a variety of people and doesn't put anyone less lovely than themselves down. If some are not friends with you, don't let it keep you down, true popular girls should always try to look on the bright side.

12. Be confident. Stop thinking you are ugly or that you aren't cool enough. Everyone is either beautiful on the inside, outside, or both. Be comfortable with that! Think of your qualities for a while. You're cool through them. Just believe in yourself and let people know the real you. Also, to be confident wake up every morning and tell yourself how pretty you are. It may sound conceited but it is a great way to start the day. Nobody will believe you're beautiful if you don't.

13. Take care of yourself. This doesn’t mean you have to starve yourself. Rather, try to get into shape. Eating healthy and exercising everyday is important and effective; so is staying clean with good hygiene. Drinking plenty of water can help your skin look great and improve your overall health. If you get to the point where you feel good about your body and the great shape you keep it in, others will see that. Try Yoga, swimming or aerobic dancing.

14. Get your own clothes sense figured out. It’s no secret that style can get you far in the girl world. Go through your wardrobe and pick out what fits your style. You don't have to go over the top. Basically, shop EVERYWHERE. It doesn't matter what brand it is. If it's cute, buy it, and maybe pick up a few other ones in the other colors. Check out fashion magazines, and study how outfits are made, and how they turn fashionable and gorgeous. It's also great to develop your own unique style, adding individual touches that are really you, instead of copying everybody else. Be unique. Accessories like earrings, belts, bags, etc. can do wonders.(You can get some really unique pieces from H&M and Forever 21.) Don't wear clothes that make you feel uncomfortable-you won't pull it off. Shop at expensive stores like Coach and Juicy Couture and other things like that and get some cute pieces that will stand out.

15. Take your hair for a ride. While not essential, a change to your hair could be just the wake-up call you need to feel confident and get out there as a popular girl. As with everything else, make sure your hair is well-groomed and taken care of as often as possible. Shower every day, wash your hair at least 3-4 times a week, and condition (from the middle of the hair down). Get a comb and make it silky by brushing it! The smaller the comb the less knots! Also, spend extra time on your hair in the morning. But be proud of your natural hair color and texture. You don't need to spend hours in the morning on your hair. Instead, if your hair is very thick and poofy, you should consider getting in thinned out in the hair salon, so that when you hop out of the shower, your hair doesn't become a poofy mess! Side bangs work great too, and are pretty easy to take care of once you get used to them. They're versatile, cute, and stylish. If you don't have time to iron your bang in some mornings, simply clip it back or push it back with a thin headband. There are lots of cute ways to style your hair, but here's a few tips:  

1.      Don't use heat on your hair too often...but straightening it about twice a week is fine. Or, you can curl the ends and wear a cute accessory! A side part is always flattering, and you can clip the side with less hair back for a quick simple look.
2.      Everyone should know 100 strokes a day isn't true! If you brush it everyday 100 times your hair will break off, be dull, and get split ends!
3.      Use good shampoos, like Herbal Essences, Loreal, Pantene and remember that conditioner is VERY IMPORTANT. After washing, dab your hair lightly with a towel and apply some serum. This will make your hair shiny and smooth.
4.      Never straighten your hair when it's wet, you don't want your hair to fry and break off.

16. Apply makeup carefully if you like putting on makeup. You don't really need makeup but putting it on could make a big boost in your confidence. While most popular girls wear makeup, it’s important to be tasteful about it. You really want people to think you're not wearing any makeup at all. Makeup can help you to emphasize things you like about your appearance, and draw attention away from things you don’t. Be sure to blend your makeup so it will not stand out and that way it will look natural. Concealer, mascara, lip gloss, and maybe some eyeshadow or liner, are all you need. Carry these things around with you in a cute bag for touch-ups. However, powder and mascara don't need to be touched up because you can carry blotter paper with you to take care of oil. You should always remember that there are quite a few popular girls who wear no makeup, and are still gorgeous. Don't wear garish or over done makeup; it screams desperate. Use a lot of natural light for your makeup. Never emphasize your eyes AND lips.

17. Be outgoing. Being shy won’t win you any new friends. You’re going to have to get out there and talk to people. You cannot be afraid to talk to others. Whether it’s chatting up to popular girls in class or at lunch, getting yourself invited to the hottest parties, getting the best grade on tests or winning an athletic contest, make your name known. Everybody needs to know who you are. Like people and show it. Be friendly and interested in people, and many of them will like you back. You don't win popularity by hiding in the corner or expecting people to approach you and suddenly appreciate you for the true gem you are. If you're shy, make friends with really outgoing people. They will encourage you to talk to other people, and soon it will be easy for you. Make sure to talk about things that other people are interested in. People are really passionate about talking about their interests.(Be yourself) If you're the humorous type, throw in a joke now and then, but only when the time is right. You'll look stupid if you joke around at the wrong time.

18. Know the guys. If you want to be popular, you can't just be friends with the popular girls. Talk to the popular guys and don't be afraid. Guys love it when a girl comes up to them and starts talking to them. Also, be flirty. This can prove for a fun conversation. Do this more often, and try to in the end have almost as many popular guy friends as popular girl friends. Remember, to be popular, you have to know all the popular girls, and guys have to like to be around you. That can't really be accomplished if you don't have any guy friends.

19. Get involved. Popular girls are usually well-rounded, and comfortable in almost every sphere of the school. Join a sports team or club. This will help you to meet many new people and establish you in the school. Be sure to do something you actually like, as people can tell when you’re faking. No one likes someone who does a sport or club just to be popular. Try to do an after school activity every day if possible. Let people know the real you!

20. Don't try too hard. Don't think that if you do a certain thing, they will like you. You must try some of their ideas, and their tips. Make a list of goals for yourself to do. If you truly want to get rid of any rep. than work at it. Set a goal, work hard and people will notice.

21. Know what your body language is telling people. For instance, when you cross your arms your body language can give the impression, "Don't bug me." Another example is slouching - a sign that says, "I don't feel I'm very important." Positive body language is all about how you feel about yourself and how you make others feel. The most popular people in school or at a party usually know how to make everyone else feel good by using plenty of positives gestures like nods, eye contact and, most important of all, a sparkling, warm smile. People think you aren't happy without a smile. Don't cross your arms, since it's a sign of : Don't Bug Me. Be friendly, like people, and many of them will like you back.

22. Seek opportunities to socialize. Even if it's just walking from one class to another, find someone that has the same schedule as you do so that you can walk and talk. If you really feel like doing something will benefit you, ask a friend to do it with you.

23. Develop relationships. As you begin to meet people, don’t just treat them as items on a checklist. Find out what they like to do, their interests, and learn about them as people. You’re trying to make friends, not just be known. Also, be sure to keep in touch with your old friends—you don’t want them to think you’ve forgotten about them just because you’re making new ones. Don’t exclude anyone. Join clubs of things that interest you like drama or debate.

24. Study hard if you want to be noticed. Being popular doesn’t mean being "stupid". Participate in class, do your homework, and don’t be afraid to be known as a "smart" girl. Just be sure you leave plenty of time for social activities. Let people know that academics/sports are important to you, but are not your entire life. Show them you know how to be playful and relaxed.

25. Don’t believe the hype. You don’t have to be mean/rude/snotty to be popular. It is the worst thing you can do! You can be friends with whom ever you want. That’s what being popular is. Stay true to the things that are most important to you, and the rest will come with ease.

26. Stick to your values and morals. That is what matters most. You may be a 15 minute celebrity, but it is better when you are respected for who you are. Keep it clean, get good grades, and help others, and then you will shine for the true you and not a shallow type. Be a great leader and many people will follow.

27. Never dump your old friends for the popular crowd. You can spend more time with your new popular friends, but try to make time for old friends too because they really are your true friends who like you for who you are. If your old friends start becoming mean to you, ask why. Maybe their feelings are hurt. But stop hanging around anyone who puts you down all the time.

28. Admit that you have flaws, once you do that try to fix those. Laugh at yourself. Hey, nobody's perfect!

29. Be nice. If you're nice, more and more people will like you and don't act like your better than anyone. Being mean might get you popular, but with wrong group, and being known as mean girl doesn't get you real popularity.

30. Have self respect. People respect others if they respect themselves.Be cool always.

31. Sometimes, playing innocent helps. Let's face it, being popular will definitely make you lots of new friends, but it will also probably lead to a few jealous stares. If a so-called "friend" makes a nasty comment, laugh it off, pretend that it wasn't hurtful at all, and be bubbly. Others will see this and appreciate the fact that you can laugh at yourself. Act like you enjoyed the comment and as if someone were telling you an actual joke. Above all, never cry or get upset. If you do, you're giving that girl the satisfaction of bring you down a notch. It's okay to stop hanging around that girl, but don't make it obvious. Always be polite, calm, mature and sweet, and don't spread gossip or isolate her to get revenge. You don't want to be viewed as the villain, you want people to love how perfect and idealistic you are...think sweet, a touch of innocence, smart, funny, striking, charming, outgoing, and bubbly.

32. Be yourself. Being popular doesn't have to be about being like everyone. Don't go out of your way to go against people.

33. Always be the life of the party. You always need to be fun, or you will be boring. Other people will think so too, and they won't hang out with you. But careful with your drinks during party, keep them with you all the time.

34. Don't boast too often This will get people quite annoyed and make them feel that you're trying to be better than them. Be quite modest, and for example if you're getting lots of comments on your 'page', never boast about your popularity. Just pretend every thing's normal and going at a good pace. And also don't care too much about how many comments you have anyway!

35. Use MSN if you are allowed to use it. Stay nice on msn and if you have a webcam and so does your chat friend then use them-they are a great way to show off your home clothes a bit and to look more normal than you do at school. Also, if you have boys' emails then chat to them on msn as you don't just want to be popular with the girls do you? But remember: only use it if you are allowed. You don't want to get in trouble do you!?

36. Get Facebook and Twitter! If you are allowed to. Facebook or Twitter it is a great way to get in touch with people you know. You have no idea how many people you will find! Remember, take plenty of pictures and post them right away. Show that you can make cute camera poses, and have fun with your friends. Try to get people to view your page, but don't stalk them! Remember to add all the popular crowd, and if they don't accept you, forget about it! Don't let it bring you down!

37. Be there for them. I'm not saying just help them, help everyone! Like,for example,if they drop their stack of books, help pick it up. Or if they slip in the wet hallway, lend them a hand! You want to show them how generous you are.

Tips-------------------------------------------------


  • Talk to people and socialize with them; don't leave your friends though!
  • Talk to boys too, and exchange numbers.
  • It's good to be brave, don't be shy! You know you can do it!
  • If there is no popular clique, START YOUR OWN! Nothing better than being the head, especially if you're nice, people will want to be your friend.
  • If the popular clique won't let you in and is really mean, go with the tip above! You might be liked more than the 1st one!
  • Follow the golden rule: Treat others in the way you would like to be treated.
  • Don't lie. If you lie, then people will believe that you are hard to trust and will kick you out of the social group. People trust others who earn their trust.
  • Start something that will bring you attention in a good way not ruin your reputation. It can be a school achievement(Great grades, win the spelling bees, be the captain of a sports team). Or try to fund raise or work for a charity and bring awareness of it into your school.(Breast cancer walk, Sudan Relief, etc.) Another good idea is to start your own business. Be creative and think hard how you can make money with your own company. There are so many ideas! Make cool jewelry and sell it online, become a party magician or party entertainer,web site design, make gourmet candy or baked goods, etc. Spend a week brainstorming.
  • Remember those girls you think ignore you are people too; it could be that maybe they just don't know you. Try to get to know them (take it slow), and give each other a chance to show who you are inside. Popular kids are usually too busy (school, sports and after school activities) to take an interest in absolutely everyone. They just don't have the time! Say ring me to people and/or if you are not busy enough to be popular.. just stay cool and try and hang out....:)
  • Recognize that there are all kinds of people that are popular. Not all of the people that are popular are stereotypical mean girls, most are just outgoing and likable.
  • Seek out friendship with the nicest member of the popular crowd. Be friendly, not pushy or needy. Usually they can help, but if you pull yourself into the group too fast, you'll be considered "stalking". Try to find two of the nicest girls and work on getting them to think you are cool. Once one of them thinks you are cool, then the others will latch on to that.
  • Get slowly involved with activities that will keep you as busy as they are. Pulling all A's, becoming really good at certain sports or helping out with school projects are good and also attention-getters. Win some awards or start a new fund raiser for charity.
  • Hang out with them once a week to start out with, preferably at lunch or in school. Don't push it, and don't always talk to the friend about "when should we hang out?". Then maybe escalate to two times a week. Try to make it so that they ask to hang out with you more often than you do ask to hang out with them. Look busy all the time.
  • Do not let them know you are too dependent on them. You don't have to reject their invitations to hang out, but if you are busy tell them why and don't lie!
  • It's always cool to smile. If you have braces, let your smile show! Many girls have braces and its a great thing to talk about and to start a conversation. Braces also show your personality, so smile! Some of the most popular girls have had braces, the coolest friends, and the hottest boyfriends all at the same time.
  • Do something hugely, phenomenally nice once in awhile. See, some people have this warped idea that all popular girls are mean and selfish, just not to their friends(not true!) so to change that, do the occasional good deed.
  • Live your life and have fun. It's usually when you stop caring what others think and are just nice to everyone that the invites start rolling in.
  • If someone doesn't like you, get over it -- not everyone will. Still be generally nice to them because they might come around and realize how much fun you are.
  • Do what makes you feel comfortable. Smile when you mean it but if something doesn't make you laugh, don't. It makes you look desperate and clingy. People just don't like that no matter how popular they are.
  • Develop a skill. Be known as the super-talented artist or the star of the volleyball team. It will make it cool to hang out with you.
  • Avoid staying home on a weekend: make sure you are out having fun with your friends (or out doing fun stuff even alone). The more people see you, the more they'll like you. Studies have shown that familiar faces are liked more by people than ones they don't see often. Its still OK just to have an easy weekend, but sitting in the corner every weekend won't make you cool.
  • If somebody calls you weird, laugh it off and say "what can I say, I'm just special like that! Gotta Love it." people will be amazed at your confidence and how comfortable you are with yourself.
  • Keep up with the latest trends in entertainment -- this means listening to popular songs and artists, as well as watching MTV. But make sure you don't lose interest in your own hobbies--don't lose who you are! If you don't like a song or group, don't pretend you do but don't be negative about it. Remember, always be yourself in any situation. You also don't have to like everything cool. Always be true to yourself and stick with who you really are. It's OK to listen to some has-beens and 80's music. And if the new music is against your morals (such as songs about sex) don't dirty up your mind! Really- you can go against the flow.
  • Join some clubs without your friends. Sure it would be nice to do some after-school activities with your closest BFFs, but how will you ever associate and meet new people when you're always talking to your friend about weekend plans?
  • Use your popularity to make a difference!
  • Surround yourself with as many people who like the same interests as you as you can. It will help.
  • Make sure you always have a smile for everybody, and ignore people when they're mean to you. Don't retort with a nasty comeback, you're just sinking to their level.
  • It's all about taking care of yourself for you. I can't stress enough how you need to be happy with yourself and just have fun and enjoy life.
  • Get passionate! Find something that means a lot to you, and care about it. Many popular girls lack a sense of perspective, which makes them seem ditsy and shallow.
  • ALWAYS be nice and try not to gossip because it could lead to arguments with your friends!!
  • Be just a little bit mysterious. Don't tell your friends all of your secrets. Develop a weird and obscure hobby. This will keep you from becoming boring.
  • Try to shop at the brand name stores. People get first impressions from the way you dress and act so you might as well start with the wardrobe. Abercrombie and Fitch, Aeropostale, Hollister, Roxy, Old Navy and designers are nice places to shop that way people will notice you. Of course don't go spending all of your money on expensive clothes, just own one or two items which make you feel super confident. If you're not sure what clothes to buy read fashion magazines for hints and tips and take a couple of friends along shopping with you for their approval.
  • Along with that, try if you can to go to vintage or thrift stores(or even the fabric store if you know how to sew)to find unique pieces. They'll make you stand out and show you have a creative mind.
  • The popular people are popular for two reasons: they hang out with each other with self-confidence and make themselves popular. Also the boys like them. So try to be confident and do things boys like. But DON'T dress in really skimpy clothes or do anything stupid like that just to impress boys.
  • Whenever you are having problems at home or with boys remember your new friends and your old friends will be there for you and don't take it out on them.
  • To be truly popular, don't act like you know you're popular. Let your reputation do that for you.
  • Don't think being physical solves anything. It just makes it worse.
  • Try hard at everything and NEVER let anybody see your insecurities. If something goes wrong one day, don't make a big deal or they will see your weak spot.
  • When you're around the "queen bee", don't be competitive. Be friendly, and nice, and then they'll grow to like you and add you into the group.
  • Do whatever it takes to assure that you are happy with yourself!
  • Positivity attracts positivity!
  • Don't be obsessive over your new friends.... try not to follow them around, they need their space and they may even get a little creeped out and that's not good
  • Change something about you that everyone will notice.
  • Remember being popular isn't everything!
  • Don't say anything behind someone's back that you wouldn't say to their face.The more nice things that you say about people and less nasty then nice things will be said about you and less nasty comments!!

Warnings-----------------------------------------------


  • Don’t drink or do drugs because you think it will make you popular. Drinking and drugs can mess up your life! Do not let your friends pressure you into taking drugs or drinking alcohol. Holding true to your beliefs and values will get you more friends than any drugs will. You don't want to look UGLY, do you? Plus if your friends tell you that doing drugs makes you popular don't listen to them. You can still be popular without doing those type of things.
  • Being popular shows if you have what it takes to appeal to everyone else in society. But when society decides that you aren't cool anymore...then what? Don't spend all these years of youth trying to be popular but making a change in the world. Then, you can be truly proud of yourself not for just a few years but for the rest of your life.
  • Girls do have a tendency to get jealous and may spread rumors about you as you become more popular. Be prepared to deal with this in a calm and effective way. Try to be nice to everyone and never give people a reason to make fun of you. It ruins your rep!
  • Don't let your emotions get the best of you. If someone says something snotty to you, just let it go; you'll be respected more.
  • Remember, the people you think are "cool" now may not be as cool in 5 years. Attitudes change, fashion changes, and people grow and learn. Don't do something stupid that in 5 years you will regret. Don't do that!
  • Don't be a snob. Making fun of people and spreading rumors just to fit in might get you popular, but with the wrong group.
  • Be prepared to get dropped. This is very common, especially with the most popular girls. Just continue on and pretend that you don't care, even if you do. You can't let it get you down. It happens to everybody, even popular girls.
  • If these popular girls don't want to include you in their group, don't look offended. Leave them alone if they don't treat you right, those girls aren't worth your time. Make friends that like you for you.
  • Don't socialize with people who are rude to you, or "diss" you. This could cause you to appear to be unappreciated, this is never good.
  • Remember, do not be friends with people who are mean to others, then others will assume you are mean too, even if you are not, so go with your gut, if you know the people you are hanging out with are up to no good, then do not hang out with them! Don't give the wrong impression on people.
  • Don`t dump your old friends. You never know when you`ll need their shoulder to cry on. Trust me, everyone needs one sometime.If there is nothing wrong that they did to you,you shouldn't get rid of them.
  • Being popular can, and will, be a ton of pressure. It's up to the individual to decide if it's really worth it. Don't let the pressure get to you. If it does don't go to drugs for the answer. You can always drop out of your position of being popular if you can't handle it.
  • When you are with your new group, they may be talking about someone or making a joke about them. Don't join in or stare at the person and ESPECIALLY don't laugh. This gives a really bad impression of you to other people. This could really ruin your new popular reputation!
  • Always be true to your self and always keep believing in yourself, whether you are popular or not!
  • Be sure to be nice to everyone so you are not thought of as a jerk. Popular people don't want to hang out with someone who isn't nice.
  • There will be times of peer pressure to do something you don't want to. Stick to what you think is right. Try to make the decision that will benefit you the most.
  • Never try to make jokes that aren't funny. It might prove to people you aren't ready to become popular. If you have a joke try it on your best popular friend if it doesn't work keep it to yourself. Try to be funny while avoiding embarrassment!
  • Remember to go for the real good guys when it comes to dating. Don't go for the guys who would pursue you because of your pretty face but for guys that would support you because they like who you are as a person.
  • Don't forget about your grades. Just because your popular doesn't mean that you have to forget about school. You can still be popular even when you get good grades. If you have to study for a huge test one night and friends invite you to a party say that you can't go but their welcome to come over for a study party or a sleepover.
  • If a "friend" from before doesn't like the popular you, try to be friends with that person again if you think she'll be friends with you again.
  • Popularity is great, it's awesome to be liked, but don't let it go to your head, that can ruin your rep and the way people perceive you.
  • If you let your obsession of popularity get in the way of your friendship with other girls/boys, you will regret it!
  • DO NOT eat anything messy because it could spill on your clothes and make your breath smell bad.
  • Remember that you always have to be kind to people and smile at them even if they've done something to you, you have to be polite and then others will do the same as you. Treat people how you want to be treated.
  • Remember: No one will accept you if you don't accept yourself first!
  • And remember, if you act like something you're not people will be able to tell that you're being fake.
  • When you do get popular it will be fun, but being popular is like a cycle and sometimes you are, and sometimes you aren't but it comes and goes. It's because people are like rubber bands. Sometimes they're close, then they stretch, but they always come back.[unless something happened to break the band.]
  • Popularity is not everything, it is likely that you will find many people who will like you by you just be the person you are naturally without an act. In fact, you may find the situation where more people can do like you in this fashion, where you may not appear "shallow" - to be you you are is to be satisfied and confident.
  • NEVER EVER EVER act exactly like a mean popular girl on TV or in a movie. You'll get no friends at all.

Things You'll Need-----------------------------------


  • Good hygiene- Brush your teeth, shower daily, buy a nice subtle perfume or body spray, get a facial cleanser based on your skin type. Basically take good care of yourself so that you can be the best you you can be.
  • Mascara- but don't use any companies that test animals.
  • Lip gloss- To prep for perfect lips, I suggest using Vaseline before you go to sleep. Vaseline is the wonder cosmetic!
  • Blush/eyeshadow/foundation.
  • Hairbrush/Comb/Bobby pins -Depending on your hair type and length.
  • A dazzling smile - if you have crooked teeth or braces, who cares? Smile anyways!
  • Wear clothes that are comfortable and look good on you. It doesn't necessarily have to be what's "IN" this season just whatever looks good on you and makes you feel good about yourself!
  • Neatly plucked eyebrows (When people see you the first thing they notice about you should NOT be your eyebrows! It should be your face as a whole. Buy a stenciling kit if worried, and remember, over plucked puny eyebrows are a big turn off, natural but neat eyebrows are far more framing.)
  • Blow dryer if necessary.
  • Confidence- Confidence naturally attracts attention and support. In the animal kingdom the Alpha-Female doesn't get to the to the top by submitting to the other members of the clan! She makes herself stand out!
  • Straighteners are great, they really enhance the quality of your hair!
  • Half up half down.
  • A messy bun with a skinny headband is very commonly use with the popular clique.
  • Plain ponytail.
  • Tiara braid (very pretty).
  • A positive attitude.
  • A perfect walk. Do not walk around like you own the place.

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Am I Annoying?

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Most of the time, an annoying person does not realize how his or her behavior is Perceived by others. If you suspect That You're annoying others - or you've been told you're annoying and think They Might Be Right, here's how to avoid the little Things That Often get on people's nerves. If you think it would bother you, it is probably bothering others.



"How To Annoy People?"

100 ways to annoy people :

1) Get to know a friends bookie and place bets for them. Insist on keeping half of any money They Win.
2) Accuse people of "glue sniffing addictions" in public.
3) Call other people "Champ" or "Tiger.". Refer to yourself as "Coach."
4) Drum on every available surface.
5) Sing the Batman theme incessantly.
6) Staple papers together in the middle of the page.
7) Ask 1-800 operators for dates.
8) Produce a rental video Consisting Entirely of dire FBI copy warnings.
9) Sew anti-theft detector strips into people's backpacks.
10) Hide dairy products in inaccessible places.
11) Insist on giving weather forecasts in public. Claim to be AMS certified.
12) Surprise old friend's by visiting them at 3am "to discuss old times".
13) Insist on buying airplane tickets for friends to "save them money." Make sure the plane departs at 5:00 a.m. and the tickets are non-refundable. Point out That you did not really save them any money.
14) Write the surprise ending to a novel on its first page.
15) That Specify your drive-through order is "to go".
16) September alarms for random times.
17) Learn Morse code, and Have conversations with friends in public Consisting Entirely of "BEEEEP BEEEEP Bip Bip Bip ..."
18) Buy Large Quantities of mint dental floss just to lick the flavor off.
19) Order a side of pork rinds with your filet mignon.
Instead of Gallo, serve Night Train next Thanksgiving.
20) Leave your Nine Inch Nails tape in Great Uncle Ed's stereo, with the volume properly adjusted.
21) Publicly Investigate just how slowly you can make a "croaking" noise.
22) Honk and wave to strangers.
23) Dress only in clothes colored Hunter's Safety Orange.
24) Change channels five minutes before the end of every show.
25) Tape pieces of "Sweating to the Oldies" over climactic parts of rental movies.
26) Wear your pants backwards.
27) Decline to be seated at a restaurant, and simply eat Their complementary mints by the cash register.
28) Begin all your sentences with "Oh la la!"
29) Rouse your roommate / spouse from slumber each morning with Lou Reed's "Metal Machine Music".
30) Leave someone's printer in compressed-italic-landscape mode.
31) ONLY TYPE IN UPPERCASE.
dont use any punctuation
32) Buy a large quantity of orange traffic cones and reroute whole streets.
33) Pay for your dinner with pennies.
34) Tie jingle bells to all your clothes.
35) Repeat everything someone says, as a question.
36) Write "X - Buried Treasure" in random spots on roadmaps.
37) Explain to everyone you meet of your Kennedy assassination / UFO / OJ Simpson conspiracy theories.
38) Repeat the Following conversation a dozen times: "Do you hear that?" "What?" "Never mind, it's gone now."
39) Light road flares on a birthday cake.
40) Wander around the restaurant, asking other diners for Their parsley.
41) Leave tips in Bolivian currency.
42) Demand That everyone address you as "Conquistador".
43) Push all the flat Lego pieces together tightly.
44) At the laundromat, use one dryer for each of your socks.
45) When Christmas carolling, sing "Jingle Bells, Batman smells ..." Until Physically restrained.
46) Wear a cape That says "Magnificent One".
47) As much as possible, skip Rather than walk.
48) Stand over someone's shoulder, mumbling, As They read.
49) Finish the 99 bottles of beer song.
50) Leave your turn signal on for fifty miles.
51) Pretend your mouse is a CB radio, and talk to it.
52) Try playing the William Tell Overture by tapping on the bottom of your chin. When nearly done, announce "no, wait, I messed it up", and repeat.
Why Walk When you can drive half a block That?
53) Name your dog "Dog".
54) Inform others They exist only in That your imagination.
55) Ask people what gender they are.
56) Reply to everything someone says with, "That's what you think."
57) Lick the filling out of all the Oreos, and place the cookie parts back in the tray.
58) Cultivate a Norwegian accent. If Norwegian, Affect to Southern Drawl.
59) Forget the punchline to a long joke, but the listener Assure it was a "real hoot".
60) Routinely handcuff yourself to furniture, informing the curious That You do not want to fall off "in case the big one comes".
61) Sculpt your hedges into anatomically suggestive shapes.
62) Follow a few peace behind someone, spraying everything They touch with a can of Lysol.
63) Deliberately hum songs that will REMAIN Lodged in co-workers' brains, Such as the Mr Rogers theme song.
64) While making presentations, occasionally bob your head like a parakeet.
65) Make beeping noises when to a large person backs up.
66) Leave your Christmas lights up and lit Until September.
67) Change your name to John Aaaaasmith for the great glory of being first in the phone book. Claim it's a Hawaiian name, and demand That people pronounce each A.
68) Sit in your front yard pointing a hair dryer at passing cars to see if They slow down.
69) Chew on pens that you've borrowed.
70) Invent nonsense computer jargon in conversations, and see if people play along to avoid the appearance of ignorance.
71) Wear a lot of cologne.
72) Ask people if you may "interface" with them.
73) Listen to 33rpm records at 45rpm speed, and claim the faster speed is Necessary Because of your "higher mental processing".
74) Sing along at the opera.
75) Mow your lawn with scissors.
76) Finish all your sentences With The words "in accordance with the prophesy."
77) Ask the waitress for an extra seat for your "imaginary friend."
78) Go to a poetry recital and ask why each poem does not rhyme.
79) Ask your co-workers mysterious questions, and scribble Their answers in a notebook. Mutter something about "psychological profiles".
80) Incessantly recite annoying phrases, Such as "sticky wicket is not cricket."
81) Stare at static on the TV and claim you can see the "magic picture."
82) Select the same song on the jukebox fifty times.
83) Scuff your feet on a dry, shaggy carpet and seek out Victims.
84) Do not add any inflection to the end of your sentences, producing awkward silences With The impression That you'll be saying more any moment.
85) Never make eye contact. 
86) Never break eye contact.
87) DRAMAQUEEN.
88) DRAMABOMB.
89) FREAKSHOW.
90)Signal That a conversation is over by clamping your hands over your ears.
91) Construct elaborate "crop circles" in your front lawn.
92)Construct your own pretend "tricorder", and "scan" people with it, announcing the results.
93) Give a play-by-play account of a person's every action in a nasal Howard Cosell voice.
94) Shout random numbers while someone is counting.
95) Make appointments for the 31st of September.
96) Invite lots of people to other people's parties.
97) When asked to do things, repeat the instructions to the body parts Involved. (Ie. "Hand, will you please open the door.")
98) When people ask you to do things, mutter under your breath, "This will not be neccessary where you are going."
99) Wait until you get to work to shave.
100) Tell That They Do small children look very promising.

"How To Find Out If You're Annoying?"

100 typical things annoying people do all the time :

1) People who wear size 5 shoes.
2) People who make a stupid face When They do not understand something, and who consequently are making a stupid face all the time.
3) The people who got picked first for sports teams in elementary school.
4) People with annoying voices.
5) People who wear so much fragrance That there is an actual visible cloud of it all around them.
6) Constantly People who drive at 70 km / h, Whether the current speed limit is 50 or 100.
7) People who show up wanting to buy cigarettes from Rob. (If you do not know, do not ask.)
8) Telemarketers
9) Vaccuum cleaner salesmen.
10) Rabid Christian Vegetarians
11) People who look over at your meal and then, just as you are lifting your fork to your mouth, say in an irritating tone of voice, "Oh, you're not going to eat THAT, are you?"
12) People who hum.
13) Little skinny people who complain loudly how embarrassed They are About to Have to buy jeans That are about 4 sizes smaller than the ones you're wearing.
14) People who seem to be unaware of the fact That They have horrible BO
15) People who are so totally perfect That you would love to hate them, if only They were not so nice to you all the time.
16) People who latch onto you and rant about everything Until They Can think of your ears bleed.
17) People who talk loudly in public places About Their staff problems.
18) Fashion Designers.
19) People who Prove That on a regularly basis yes, there is such a thing as a stupid question.
20) People who try to hum or sing along with elevator music.
21) Salespeople who latch onto you and follow you around the store, asking if They Can Help You, Until You Either give up and buy something, or go nuts and beat them to death with a display rack.
22) Anyone who has found himself on this list and is writing me a snotty letter in response.
23) Their Mothers who let children run around screaming in stores.
24) Mimes.
25) People who talk to you as if you were 4 years old.
26) People who meow.
27) Whoever invented Valentine's Day.
28) Little children who seem to be spending Their Entire Summer Vacation In Their standing around yards and screaming at the top of Their little lungs.
29) newscasters who smile in a cheerful and friendly Manner as They Tell You About various recent disasters have resulted in fatalities That.
30) People who use "times" as a verb, When They mean "multiply."
31) People who say "nucular" instead of "nuclear."
32) Morning people.
33) People who do not realize That it's rude to pick your nose in public.
34) People who answer rhetorical questions.
35) relentlessly cheerful people.
36) Barney.
37) Whoever first came up with the concept of Barney.
38) People who answer rhetorical questions incorrectly.
39) Tall people who sit right in front of you in theaters.
40) People who had Appear To Have Their senses of humor surgically removed.
41) People who read the previous category and are now going "huh?"
42) Dentists who try to have a conversation with you while They are working on your teeth and you can not respond.
43) Sports Commentators.
44) People in your music class who say things like, "Oh, can we do theory today, sir?"
45) People who laugh at jokes Their Own before they've actually Reached the punchline.
46) People who eat bad-smelling food, Such as tuna, in crowded areas.
47) Anyone who is attempting to analyze my personality based on this list.
48) People who talk baby-talk.
49) Whoever invented high-heeled shoes.
50) Whoever invented underwires.
51) People who own a small dog, and treat it like it's Their child, stupid putting sweaters on it and taking them everywhere It With They Go.
52) Rat boy. (Again, if you do not know, do not ask)
53) People who tell long, elaborate jokes That seems to go on forever, and then mess up the punchline.
54) Whover Decided That The Merchant of Venice was somehow Inappropriate to study in school.
55) People Who Have taken it upon Themselves to cheer up the world, Whether the world wants to be cheered up or not.
56) People who make grammatical mistakes while complaining That no one uses proper grammar anymore.
57) People who arbitrarily turn nouns into verbs.
58) People who are so politically correct to be Determined That They are no longer Able to finish a sentence without the aid of a lawyer.
59) People Whose response to any event is to search around for someone to sue.
60) People who sell religion door-to-door.
61) People Who Think They Can Prove or disprove the existence of a god.
62) People with poor personal hygiene.
63) People who sit in a public place and pick things out of Their hair.
64) Their Mothers who wash children's faces with spit.
65) Mothers who are somehow Able to ignore the sound of a small child shrieking Repeatedly "mom!" in the middle of a department store.
66) People who put gum on desks and bus seats.
67) People who, halfway through the school year, In Their locker to find thermos That has been there since the beginning of the year, and then, god only knows why, he decides to open it, THUS exposing the world at large to the smell of moldy chicken noodle soup.
68) People who say "Hot enough for you?"
69) Anyone who has ever said "It's not the heat, it's the humidity."
70) People For Whom It Is Clearly a major effort to Maintain Their shaky grasp of the incredibly obvious.
71) People who can not or will not acknowledge the fact That cats are basically evil.
72) People who let cats run loose and Their get into everyone's garbage.
73) People who are Able to recite Entire episodes of the Simpsons.
74) People who try to convince you That the world is really a wonderful, sunny, cheerful place, if only you look at it right.
75) Vegetarians who are smug about it. (Celery is a living thing, too, you know!)
76) People who, even if you pulled a gun on them, would not be Able to wrap around the concept Their Minds That you really do not like them.
77) People who Develop a totally new outlook on life every couple of months, and then feel Compelled to tell you about it in great detail, Whether you want to hear it or not.
78) People who tell you the ending of a movie you've seen it before. (Anthony Perkins is his own mother!)
79) People who sit near you in movie theaters and loudly point out obvious events in the movie As They Occur
80) People who pronounce the word "film" with two syllables.
81) People who talk to malfunctioning vending machines, like it's going to turn out Suddenly The Machine That really CAN sell them a chocolate bar, and it was just waiting to hear the magic words.
82) People who chew With Their mouths open.
83) People who repeat themselves.
83) People who repeat themselves.
84) People Who Do not Know That They have bad breath.
85) People who chew gum watermelon.
86) People who whistle tunelessly.
87) People who talk to TV and movie characters, as if the characters can hear them.
89) People who pick Their teeth in public.
90) People who catch onto jokes just slightly later than everyone else.
91) People Who Think They can sing, but who really can not.
92) Unfunny people who really believe That They have wonderful senses of humor.
93) People who believe making bad puns That is the same as having a sense of humor.
94) The so-called "artists" who paint those pictures of vases of flowers and cross-eyed cats are available in fine That shopping malls everywhere.
95) People who actually buy said pictures, and hang them In Their living rooms, and think That This Means That They are cultured.
96) Whoever first kindergarten students Decided That Should Have to make pictures by gluing paste onto cardboard.
97) Phys ed teachers.
98) Those people who are always making craft-type projects, and who consequently are always urging people to save Things That are obviously garbage, Such as egg cartons and pistachio shells.
99) People who give serious fruitcakes as Christmas presents.
100) People who mow lawns Their at 8:00 on a Sunday morning.

"How To Not Be Annoying?"

Some steps that might help you:

1) Build self confidence. Sometimes someone will find you annoying Because You Happen To Do Something That They associate with a negative trait, Such as anxiety, stereotypes, or slovenliness. You should not have to change something about yourself just because someone interprets your behavior inaccurately (presuming it is an inaccurate judgment). But other times, we can be annoying Because we're insecure or we're trying too hard. In Such cases, you can examine why you do things and Perhaps Certain That The Only Reason realize you're doing them is to make a good impression, and it's backfiring on you!

2) Break counterproductive habits. Let's say you've found that you laugh loudly at everyone's jokes, even if they're not all that funny, or perhaps you've gotten in the habit of laughing at inappropriate times. Maybe you started doing it subconsciously because you thought being jubilant and quick to laugh made you more likable, but now all it's doing is annoying everyone you spend time with. Try a different approach - be genuine and be yourself. If people find you annoying when you're being true to yourself, then you need to find new, more accepting people to be around.

3) Respect boundaries. Everybody has boundaries - you need to learn what they are and try to avoid crossing them. Boundaries vary widely from culture to culture and even from individual to individual.

- Do not go around poking people constantly. In fact, don't touch them at all if they don't like it. Of course if they are a good friend of yours and they don't mind, then by all means have fun. Otherwise, keep your hands to yourself.
- Don't talk about people behind their backs; especially if you have not stated your issue with the person in the first place. This is especially true of those who are related to you, or are your friends or significant other.
- Do not impose, or appear uninvited. Try to control your emotions and not be too pushy. Give people space when they need it. Don't call every single day. Remember, the greatest form of annoyance is repetition.
- Do not go through people's stuff. Even if their things are not private, they may still feel violated if you touch things that are in their personal space. If you wish to borrow something, ask for permission first and allow the person to give the item to you.
- Mind your own business. Avoid butting into a conversation by (for example) saying, "What are you talking about?" If you hear someone talking about something with another person, and you only catch the last sentence, leave it be.

4) Be humble. Just because you're confident doesn't mean you have to act like you're better than anyone else. Don't do or say things that might let you appear to be arrogant, like bragging about your wealth or success.

- Don't correct bad grammar/spelling or inaccuracies of others because most people don't like being corrected.
- Don't tell people that their beliefs are wrong. Gently and nicely mention that you disagree. Have a clear moral line and stand by it. For instance, all is fair until you cause harm to another person. Yours may vary, but try to make sure it's used across the board.
- Don't complain all the time. Remember the world does not revolve around you. If you complain too much, others will find you depressing and avoid you. This also goes for constantly insulting yourself, which is not humble - it's another form of self-absorption. It's normal to feel bad once in a while, and to express your discontent. But, you also need to know when to get over it and move on. Read up on how to be optimistic.
- Be mindful of how the things you say are perceived by others. Even if your words are thoughtful and important, your tone of voice may indicate frustration, crankiness, or a condescending attitude, or flippancy or arrogance or any number of things which give folks the wrong impression and causes them to hate your guts.

5) Learn to listen. Conversation is a two way street. If you're talking constantly, others will get frustrated and quit trying to communicate with you. As a general rule, always listen more than you speak. Think about what you say before you say it. Avoid interrupting someone in the middle of a thought, even if it just jogged your memory of something to say. Remember the famous quotation, "It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt".

6) Be conscious of your surroundings. Be aware if you are standing in doorways while having a conversation, standing in the middle of an area where people are trying to walk (in stores, malls, or the airport), or if your children are being obnoxious in a public place. Also, do not loudly sing or play music which others are likely to find irritating. Consider how your actions are likely to affect the people around you, and you will gain their respect.

7) Be polite and hygienic. Don't peek down people's shirts for instance, don't pass gas, don’t talk about biological functions in public. Cover your nose and mouth with your elbow when you sneeze or cough. Take care to brush and/or floss after meals so as not to inflict your breath on others. Take a shower everyday and put on clean clothes every day.

8) Learn to read facial reactions and body movements. Pay attention to the facial expressions and body language of those around you and work to immediately identify and stop whatever you're doing that is annoying others.

9) Don't overcrowd. When someone's having a bad day, don't try to hang around them to make them feel better (unless of course they ask). If you were having a bad day, you wouldn't want someone bugging you with failing attempts at pick-me-ups. Ask if they would like your reassurance, but remember that "no" means "no". Only talk about what is bugging them if they bring it up.

10) Avoid unnecessary repetition. Constantly repeating the same action over and over again (Such as Inappropriate making sounds or pulling someone's hair, etc.), Is not the right way of 'getting attention'. If a person says 'stop' That means 'stop'. If you continue without stopping, you might lose a friend.
Do not copy people. If you copy someone they just get annoyed and walk away. You should not copy your friends Because You Could Either risk losing them.
Say it once. Do not say the thing you said twice Because They would say, "I heard you" or "OKAY!" or something like that. It can get annoying to them. They heard it already; They do not want to hear it again.
Do not make repetitive noises. If you find yourself tapping your pencil on the table, chewing with your mouth open ice, tapping your foot against something, clearing your throat excessively, coughing, please stop.

11) Don't argue. Most people dislike arguing. Simply state that you disagree and refrain from setting yourself up as an expert on the subject. A "know-it-all" stance grates on peoples' nerves. Of course, you can have intelligent debates/discussions with a person/people provided the circumstances are appropriate and the other person is willing to engage. Never force someone into a debate. If someone tells you that they would rather not discuss a topic, drop it.

Tips


- Don't know if you are annoying? Ask a person that you would find likely to give you an honest and constructive answer. Be prepared for criticism and be willing to accept it gracefully. The person may not be ready to give it all immediately, so give him/her time by explaining your situation, thoughts, and feelings to make it clear you can handle helpful criticism. Don't take this to an extreme, either, as it will probably be quite annoying itself. Also ask them to keep it updated till you tell them they can, and stop asking at the end of the day.

- If your friends and family are removing themselves from you, it is possible you need to work on your social skills and personal boundaries with a professional counselor or in a group. Creating appropriate boundaries is greatly affected by early experiences over which we have no control. Coming to terms with these experiences may help give you the security you need to create and respect proper boundaries.

- Keep practicing these skills until you get it right - this will be when you feel better and your friends/family talk to you more.

- One thing that many people find annoy is if you cling onto them and don't ever leave their side. Surround yourself with many friends so that you can spend time with many people, and not be perceived to be clinging to one person, which can get annoying.


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